Incredibly Brave or Wildly Dumb?!?

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So it has been a couple of weeks since my last post…life consumes us sometimes…in good ways and in bad. Luckily over the last couple of weeks I’ve been consumed in the good. Between a couple of meetings with my editor, writing a little more…oh and an amazing trip to New York City – and let me tell you this place has the capacity to tell many stories. It inspired me to write more…right from the moment I arrived at the airport in Canada to wait for my flight until the moment I boarded to come home this morning. This place really has you explore your power.

On the evening that I flew in, my friend was at an event so I found my way from New Jersery to the Village…I contemplate this trek being one of the sketchiest moments of my life…my flight had been delayed a couple hours, so what was meant to be a 9pm subway ride turned into a 12am subway ride. I met an incredibly nice couple that were on my flight and they brought me to Penn station (my first NYC heroes) lol…they got me on the right track to the Village…after saying our goodbyes, I got on the Subway train and immediately realized I was either incredibly brave or wildly dumb. Who takes the subway in an unfamiliar place, with basically no idea where you are going at midnight??? With luggage??? Why didn’t I just go onto the street and take a cab???

As much as my heart was beating with all of the bizarre stares I was getting, I felt slightly empowered that I was actually navigating the City semi-independently…then the train stopped and it was time to get off…I needed a big gulp of strength, because as soon as I stepped onto the plat form, people disappeared (except for a few scary stragglers) and I started to panic…which stairs to take?! So, I befriend this man (hero #2) passing by and ask him kindly to get me to the street…he laughed and agreed…FINALLY I’m in the lively streets of NYC…I call my friend, who has started to panic because she hadn’t heard from me in a bit, luckily she was just arriving home from the event and races down to meet me…I’ve never been so happy to see a familiar face as I was at that moment….this might not be the most sketchiest moment in another person’s life…however, it did a number on me.

I’m curious…was it incredibly brave or just wildly dumb of me?! Luckily I was accompanied the rest of the weekend…I had a total BLAST!!! I can’t quite figure out my favourite part – exploring the streets and passing through Little Italy, walking across the Brooklyn Bridge, Times Square fun, Broadway, Piano Bar, and much more!!!

Since my blog’s purpose is to appreciate the beauty in life, I must touch on my entire trip being fruitful and inspirational…when I landed in Toronto this morning I immediately wanted to return to NYC…this city is incredible, the way of life is chic, inspiring, a ton of fun, and just simply AWESOME. I’ve met some really great people…it was really neat to learn about the people I met and realize that ‘everybody has their story’….the subway story is only the start of my weekend’s adventures and a small story in the grand scheme of my life…lol

Do I see myself living there at some point???…quite possiblysoon.

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The Best Way To Check In and Recharge…

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This past weekend has been filled with complete abundance for me, and likely for more than a handful of women I consider my closest friends. These women are angels in my life. They have taught me so many things and loved me unconditionally. More than just listening and sharing their feelings, they honour my being and path. They truly seek the best for me and I for them. They are so safe, caring, kind, beautiful and compassionate – I really can’t imagine life without them. From an a great dinner catching up with an old friend, to celebrating 30 years of another, and having a slumber party with my angels…my heart is overflowing with love as I write this post…

What I would like to focus on and share with you all today is how to truly nurture the ‘girl friends’ that you have in life. Far too often we have made excuses not to acknowledge what our friends truly need from us (we are all busy with work, children, boyfriends, husbands – these all fall under the category of excuses…) The truth is, in order to show up for the ‘excuses in your life’ – which also happen to be beauty in your life, at your best, you need to replenish yourself with the women (or men – actually…I’m not sure men have as much difficulty allowing guy time as women do) who feed your soul. These are the people you can trust…but in order to be a good friend effectively you have to show up on the in between…it includes the big ways too like; investing in some quality time, sleepovers, chats, dinners, etc…but also – but be there in between also…the world has made it way too easy to check in with your family and friends – a simple/quick phone call or message/email to let your friends know you care is the best way – you never know – your friend might be needing exactly the message you decide to send…and then setting dates to meet in bigger ways through events, dinners, etc.

I invite you to think about all of the amazing friends that you have surrounding you..and ask yourself:

Are you present enough in their life?…

Have you connected with them to know enough to know what is going on in their lives?

Have you honoured their path as much as they have honoured yours?

How could you make the friendship richer?

We are all at different stages, and I feel truly blessed to have a group of women who are at different stages than I – but – fully support and understand where I am at – AND – they show up for me. The feeling is mutual – I show up for them in the way they need also. What truly makes a friendship stronger and fills it with love and support is the ability to acknowledge where you are in your life, where your friend is in life, and meet somewhere in the middle so that both friends needs are met…

I care deeply about my friends and it is extremely important for me to be there for each one of them and so this topic is incredibly important and sacred to me…know that your friends need you just as much as you need them and sometimes that means stepping outside of the ‘grown up world’ and being that silly playful friend, like you are 8 years old all over again…it’s incredibly empowering, fulfilling and FUN!

I hope in someway today’s post inspires you to invest some time with your friends honestly, in a way that honours both you and them…to keep your connection to life and friendship as strong as possible.

And…so I will leave you with this quote…

“Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.”

– Khalil Gibran

In Kindness,

Becca

 

Community

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This past week I received the first sketch of the main character for one of the children’s books that I have written AND I was completely ecstatic when I got it! The little character is PERFECT! I am seriously trying to contain myself as I wait for the rest of the process to unravel…It was a really cool feeling to open a package for this purpose – almost like another step in my journey as been unlocked and life has given me more opportunity to be authentically me. And as much as I want to surprise the people in my life with the final product, I need to share my excitement.. It got me thinking about who is in my life and who has supported me through my journey and who will still be there once my books are published…and so this past week I’ve also been taking a look at my ‘community’. By this I don’t mean the place in which I live and am therefore a part of…I mean the people and places I associate myself with. Especially the people. I am incredibly lucky and blessed to have the people in my life that I do, that goes far beyond my family. I have a community of beautiful best friends, friends, yogis, groovers, and just people I’ve met along the way in life. Some of my community members I can’t imagine life without and I thank my lucky stars for them.

I’ve decided to spend the next – how ever long it takes – sending  thank you notes to my community – for being in my life in whatever way they have been, supporting me on my journey – some people have played a bigger role than others but I thank each person just the same. I have also shown the people that I care about that I care about them, and I will ALWAYS do that regardless of what life has to offer…and my message for today is to invite you, others, anyone to join me in this ‘gratitude’ shift…appreciate the people who make a difference in your life, the people who have believed in you and your dream – sometimes more than you have…because there comes a time when your dream comes to fruition and those people need to know they helped you in some way shift into the person you have become. This gratitude shift is meant to be different than your average ‘thank you’ -way bigger than just a simple thank you…it’s telling the people why you thank them and showing that you want them in your life regardless of where life takes you…

Today’s blog is short n’ sweet – because – well…it’s absolutely beautiful outside and I can’t wait to get back out there and soak up some time with the sun! I hope you get to also!

If you took the time out of your day to read this or support me in some way – please know that you are part of what I’m feeling grateful for on my journey…

In Kindness,

Becca

xo

Be. You.

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We have all seen the quote “be yourself, everybody else is already taken”…but I wonder how often we sit back and instinctively listen and live the message that it has to offer. I can recall many times where the integrity of myself has been compromised by my own allowing. For far too many years I placed my needs aside to meet the needs of others first. I did this because I wanted too, but there became a time where my needs weren’t being met by me or others. This goes back to the feelings of unworthiness or not being good enough to do what I feel I’m placed here on this Earth to do.

Learning to be me ALL of the time has been one of the most incredible journeys I could have asked for in life. Through deep meditation, love, trust, education, quality time with people who truly adore me, movement, and perseverance I have found a way to BE ME without compromising the likes of others but by actually enhancing both myself and others. This is very liberating. Speaking my needs, honouring them first and then showing up for people makes me a better listener, confidant, teacher, daughter, sister, friend, lover, and much more…it makes me braver, stronger, freer, clearer – you get the point. We all have days and moments where we think “should I have said/done that?” but wouldn’t it be nice to seriously just admit you made a mistake and fix it instead of dancing around it?

I’m pretty sure mistakes are a part of human existence and part of the beauty in making them is fixing them and building something stronger for yourself and possibly others…I’ve never really had a hard time admitting my flaws…I can do it. The only thing is – it takes me a bit to admit. lol. By this I mean…I may get an a heavy discussion with someone and be totally stubborn about my opinion – but then with time and space I can come back and make a point to admit where/when I am wrong and give credit to the other person. In a perfect world – I’d like to see others do this more easily – like really – get out of the EGO mind and just admit you were wrong or slightly off or whatever and appreciate whoever was right. Anyways my point for today is to BE. YOU. practice it. be patient with it. honour it. love it. trust it. respect it. respect others BE. YOU. moments. have fun with it. LISTEN to it. By being you, you say yes to your body, mind, soul and every part of you radiates!!! This doesn’t mean you won’t have to compromise is some ways for others but be honest about it and understand that by compromising we are showing respect and love and honour. Do the things you need to do to find your BE. YOU. and believe in what it tells you. It might be working out, walking, yoga, talking, dancing…it could be anything. For me finding the strength to be me involved a lot of Yoga but mostly GROOVING. This notion of moving MY body in a way that is authentic to me and listening to what it needed gave me the most power to be my BE. YOU. as much as I possibly can….

Cuteness: here’s a BE. YOU. moment from a sweet child in my class…I’ve talked a bit about all the Spring Love happening in my class and the crushing…well it’s settled down a bit like I knew it would…but the other day we were lining up and this little boy was being just a great little boy – polite, funny, kind, respectful and fun…I said to his friends “wow – you guys are lucky to have such a friend. He’s a great guy!” and sure enough his little crush steps out of line and flails her hand out toward him and says “I know – that’s why I’m ATTRACTED to him” and then saunters back into line being her BE. YOU.

No fear, no worry…just an honest comment that probably made the boy feel pretty good! Pretty sure I have the best job in the world.

On that note – have an incredibly awesome EASTER weekend. BE. YOU. and love it. Notice it. Honour it. AND – make a point to tell people all the goodness you think about them – especially if you are attracted to them 😉

In Kindness, 

Becca 

Staying Connected.

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In this 21st century I often wonder what type of impact it is going to have on humanity. I don’t think I am alone here. We have amazing technology that is meant to keep us connected but I think there is a HUGE piece missing. Human interaction. People are becoming consumed in their devices in a way that is creating the opposite of the intention (or maybe that was the intention). Many people have NO idea how to interact with others, I really believe we are losing out here on the fundamentals of life that create and sustain things like LOVE….for example human touch and embrace – a hug from someone can create such an energy surge through your whole being. I get it – life’s busy and ‘the only way to stay connected is to Skype’ …except…is it really??? Maybe if you have tools to balance your life, but I’m not sure how many people actually have the tools to balance technology and reality. Don’t get me wrong here – the computer is great – it allowed me to blog didn’t it? But I have the capability to balance…lol

I’m just trying to say that I think we need a major shift in how we are allowing technology to take over society…I think it is negatively impacting relationships, friendships, and families. Today I’m going to focus on how I think it is affecting families. This probably isn’t a surprise for most people…but I actually starting working with families at a very young age and I have always been drawn to helping families function. And as I enter this new stage in my life, I am realizing that the capacity in which I am meant to help families is far beyond what I am doing in the classroom. I truly believe that I am meant to help families build a strong connection and to stay connected. We are entering a phase in life where the parents know how to use technology and it has been in their life for the majority of it…I like to call these parents the “guinea pigs of a wide array of technological advances”. Now, here’s the tricky part — if these parents have not learned to totally and fully embrace all other areas of life — like nature, quality time, exploration, travel, education — the kids might be in trouble. Just my speculation…but if someone is totally consumed by their device (computer, tablet, phone, etc) they’re gonna miss a whole shit load of LIFE! and so are their children. 

I’m not saying that every family is going through this…but what I am saying is that a lot of families are going through this. I’d like to help break this trend/rut/sticky situation and help families function using both real time and tech time in a balanced way. I’d like to help because I don’t think that children’s needs are being met…their need to explore the world – i.e. park, grass, nature, bugs, etc. is being stifled by these games on a little phone  – because they are safer inside than outside from strangers, etc, etc. The real issue is – parents watch the kids? Pretty simple….take your children outside – even in the rain…allow them to develop an appreciation for this beautiful world we have been blessed with. Play a board game together. Create a new version of hide-n-seek…I have been involved in some very epic games of hide-n-seek and let me tell you the high energy feeling you get from this is far beyond anything a game off your device will give you. (note: I don’t think those games give you anything but a new addiction)

So, as I start to plan for my summer and how to be useful and productive…I’m wondering what you think families need right now? Is it a place or space to just be, tools to connect, ideas, someone to help their children connect to nature??? What are your thoughts…I’d love to hear them…

In Kindness, 

Becca

Groove Family

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Today I am spending the day with my Groove Family…these are some of the people that allow me to be AUTHENTICALLY me and know that if I do that – I can’t get ME wrong…
As I enter this day, I wish peace and HAPPINESS for all families…give someone in your family a call today that maybe you haven’t spoken with…or an extra hug to someone in your family that needs it…
Tomorrow I will return with a happy HEART and ready to share my weekly blog post!!!

Have the BEST day – filled with LOVE and FAMILY!
xo